LOVE IS NOT AN EMOTION BUT A CHOICE

(Laughing)… I choose to ask, “Is love an emotion or a choice?” All we hear every day from people we care about is “I love you”. But what exactly is love? Can we describe love as an obsessive attraction? Or do we say love is an emotional feeling?

Let me make one thing clear, our emotions are our feelings. The moment the thought of romantic gestures or pleasures arise the feelings start peeping.

Is love an emotion?
 Love is a strong bond created out of honest pleasure and desire. What then are our desires? Things we value, things our heart yearns for and so are our pleasures. Before we are able to love you must agree with me that there has to be a situation, be it awkward or romantic. There has to be something to spark our feelings and give us reasons to fantasize. For instance; any girl can be comfortable around a funny guy but to love this funny guy depends on what she expects in a guy. Love cannot be conceived without the consent of our choices.

Your choice which is your taste determines the form of emotions that would rise. Our emotions could accept intimacy or reject intimacy and welcome companionship. Then we hear the guys say “she friend zoned me”. (Laughing)

Let us be realistic, we all know what we expect in a person’s physical appearance and attitude; it is quite sure that when you don’t see that characteristic you barely even realize that person exists. But because love is a bond it requires “eternal yearns”. Eternal yearns are attributes that we hold on to and those attributes keep us going. Before we establish an emotion we unconsciously examine our desires and that’s what we call our choices.

To be in love with anyone is only an option. We could fall in love with anyone, you know why? Because our choice(s) or what I call eternal yearns doesn’t dwell in just one person but several persons. So, therefore, love is not an emotion but a risk of choice. Whenever we risk a choice I mean to say we have finally selected a person out of the many others. But when the purposed heart throb fails, we can’t say “we were never in love” we can only say “we are out of love”.

Have you ever wondered why people who were fondly in love with each other can no longer stand each other’s presence? Have you looked around and observed why grownups still divorce? Or, wait, have you realized that many times one party in a relationship is still willing to try while the other is ready to let go? If love is an emotion people won’t let go off each other but because love is a choice people may decide to move on.

Not every man that gets married to a woman is happy to marry her but he choosing not to divorce her but to learn to love her and stay is his choice not an emotion. If love was based on our emotions people would fall in love today and walk out of it tomorrow. But because love can be learnt and emotion can never be, we need our choices. Our choice brings about whom we love and when we choose whom to love we raise our emotions.

Our emotions only grow out of the choices we make. Emotions are made because we choose to give our hearts out to love.

To love is a choice of which an emotion is born.