HOW CAN I MAKE HER MY VAL WHEN SHE IS NOT MY GIRLFRIEND- 4 Steps to making her your date

First, ask yourself, do I stand an opportunity? If yes please read on

STEP 1: GET HER INTERESTED

Yes, yes and yes!!! Women like money so what are you waiting for? Coat her with money soak her in gifts. Don't be scared, women cherish even the littlest effort and you can win her over with just that spice of love.


STEP 2: PAY HER ATTENTION



The work is half way already! Once she is interested you have her attention and pay her attention too. This is not a time to form rambo. Like "she is all over me for money" Guy do what you have to get what you want. Its simple.
Every morning, toast her but don't bug her. Don't wanna be in her Dm's every minute (its so annoying- don't forget she is not your girl friend YET) give her space.


STEP 3: HOLD YOUR COMPLIMENT



She likes you already! Show you love her so much but don't say it. If she doesn't give you a clue by saying " I really like you?" never say a word about what you feel just swallow it. Be nice

STEP 4: ASK HER



You have to pop the question.
- Hey xxxxx
-I'll like you to be my val so I can at least be a part of your smile.
-I may be your number last but a date with you would return me a smile.
-Allow me?

Whatever she says share with this family :) Its ALL About US
Happy Vals Day in Advance Readers!

FORSYTH FIVE CONSIDERATION IN IDENTIFYING A GROUP: MADE SIMPLE TO UNDERSTAND

           

According to Forsyth (1999) a group can be identified through five different considerations which are: Interaction, Interdependence, structure, goals and cohesiveness.

1.       INTERACTION: In a group, members interact with one another by making arguments, settling arguments and also making decisions. They work together and accomplish tasks. In a group members learn from each other. They communicate verbally and most times nonverbally.

Members of the group interact because of several reasons like: The given task, Socialization and moral support.

2.       INTERDEPENDENCE: Forsyth believes members who depend on one another for progress in executing their jobs can be used to identify a group. E.g Folasayo has finished his task but Olumide and Bidemi are still having difficulties wrapping up. Because Bidemi and Olumide couldn’t deliver the group has failed regardless of Folasayo’s completion.

3.       STRUCTURE: Group members are connected in organized, situational or predicted manners. The structure of a group is characterized by its norms, stable patterns of communicating among members of the group and the roles. Roles are the set of behaviors required of members who occupy positions in a group. Norms are standards that describe acceptable behaviors in a given context.

4.       GOALS: Groups are created or established to achieve certain goals. So therefore, a group is characterized by its common goals. Group members are in harmony in their pursuits to achieve common goals.

5.       COHESIVENESS: In a group there is a certain level or degree of coordination of effort to achieve a common goal.

REFERENCE:

-Group Dynamics by Donelson. R. Foresyth

BY: JESSICA OYEKANMI

THE FIVE POPULAR WAYS OF MAKING A FINAL DECISION: WELL SIMPLIFIED

                             

1.       CONSENSUS:

The decision to make lies in the hands of the group members. All members argue and debate till they all agree on a final decision to take that will benefit all the parties in the group. There would be no centralization of decision. All members must come to an agreement.

2.       COMPROMISE: The group members may raise their suggestions and out of the suggestions made the leader picks a side which leads to a compromise. The difference between majority vote and compromise is that, members opinions are adhered to depending on the winning side. But in compromise there is no voting but a decision must be made and will be made. So therefore a party ends up happy some don’t. But in Majority vote the losing party accepts defeat knowing their views are not strong enough.

3.       MAJORITY VOTE:

Decisions may not favor all individual in the group. But we are sure it would favor the majority in the group, because the decision is based on the suggestions of the majority in the group. The majority of those that support an idea or decision is taken over the ones who do not support a particular decision.

4.       DECISION BY LEADER:

Decisions here are made by the leader regardless of what the group agrees on or what they suggest. Decisions in the group are solely made by the leader. The opinions of the members do not count in this decision making process.

5.       ARBITRATION:

In arbitration decision making process, it has been said that the group including the leader cannot come to an agreement so an external party is invited to help generate a solution.

Decisions are not made by any party in the group but by an external representative.

BY: JESSICA OYEKANMI

STANDARD AGENDA FORMAT: CASE STUDY

                                                  ADE&OBY PRODUCTIONS

The five existing departments in Ade&Oby productions have a list of task each department handles. Department C has constantly been facing an unresolvable issue amongst their group members therefore causing a “slo-mo” in production.

The Managing Director has called the head of department C and the head of the rest department to put an end to the conflict before Monday.

·         PROBLEM IDENTIFICATION

 Managing Director: What is the issue with your department? Because I do not see your work as the head of department C if you cannot handle a departmental crisis.

Head of Department C:  Group members demand specific task to handle, failing to realize that we are a team and we must cooperate with one another to achieve anything. Most times the members want to wear the crown, get all the eulogies or seek approval from me.

I have also realized that everyone is fighting for recognition so instead of the members of my group sticking to the task I have apportioned for each they rather carry the cross of another member. By saying carrying the cross I mean doing their jobs and the jobs of others.

I must also admit that there is no team spirit amongst my workers.

·         PROBLEM ANALYSIS

Managing Director: All this has been going on in your department and you haven’t found a way around it? Anyway, head of departments what is your opinion on this?

Head of Department A: I think it is a major problem that group members do not value the work of a team. And we all know that our business would not make progress with all of these shortcomings.

Head of Department D: I totally agree with you. And in fact, I think we must decide on what to do to help department C before it escalates.

Head of Department B: It is no wrong for anyone to pick up the job of another person after he has completed his Job so as hasten the productivity of the company. But what is wrong is that there is no love but envy amongst workers in department C. My reason is that, I see nothing upsetting in a fellow member assisting to complete a task. I mean, if any of us is assisted to keep our jobs what we owe our colleague is a simple gratitude.

Sir, I think there is no harmony and no love among the members of department C.

·         CRITERIA SELECTION

 Managing Director: So what we are saying is that, Department C has unresolved issues of accepting the presence of company of one another?

Head of Department B: Yes there is a glaring fault in the group dynamics and I think we have to address that issue and the conflict would be resolved in good time.

·         SOLUTION GENERATION

A solution must be made to resolve the crisis in department C. We have to find a way to build the relationship between members of the department and strengthen the group dynamics (The way members of the group communicate). We could organize a get together party for the department. We could also consider making a clear cut of each members stand in the department as well as the jobs they are to do.

The best way to handle this breach is to recognize all the effort of each member and also put into consideration the emotions of each member.

Emotional intelligence is key in dealing or maintaining individual’s emotions in an organization.

If there is enough money to spend to get the right response among members, we can employ a psychologist to evaluate each attitude of the member and help match each person’s personality with his job. And also help members to understand each other. This would go a long way in member cooperation.

·         SOLUTION EVALUATION AND SELECTION

We have come to a solution that we have to organize a get together party for department C to help them bond and interact with each other. Now we have to find out the cost of the party so it doesn’t burst the company’s budget.

We have also decided to hold a seminar and invite a psychologist to speak on emotional intelligence as it would be effective for a better communication amongst workers.

We have evaluated the means to the solution and we have concluded on the solution to a better department C

·         SELECTION IMPLEMENTATION

This is the last stage where we carry out the decision we have made to modify department C of Ade&Oby productions.

BY; OYEKANMI JESSICA