Are You Truly Happy or Is This A Facade?

It is sweet to deceive others and so deadly to deceive oneself. The very last person you should deceive is yourself. But in the real sense we are the victims of our pranks to others. (We give jokes that we can't take) I mean, we do not know how to tell our selves the truth that we hide from others.

I always say...

I do not want to die a sad woman. So I will show my sadness so that one day I will find happiness.

Showing "sadness" doesn't make you look weak. In fact what I mean is; how would Jesus know you need money if you do not ask?

Many will say; well, He sees all and knows all. Funny enough, that's correct. But didn't he say ask?
How much more mere humans? How do they understand that you aren't happy if all you do is flaunt "options" in the air?

It can be so sad to be who you're not.
If you're sad or unhappy please feel free to flaunt it because that's where help comes.

You find strength in being who you are than not. When you flaunt that unhappiness you'd see that you just happen make efforts to be happy.

Note to self...
"It's not so bad to be sad, please do express yourself"
"it's not bad not to have so much, please don't act like you carry world in your tiny purse"
"it's not bad to be hurt, tell it to someone"

Nothing is as terrible as self deceit.

Just feel free in your own skin.

Who is the right person to spend time with?

So, forgive me, I can be very partial when it comes to discussions like this. That's when you'd hear someone like me saying only God deserves my time and energy lol, well that's because I'm very particular about my time.

I always say

My time is my life. Please don't ruin my life. Set me free if it isn't worth it and soon I'd find what's worth it.

But really, who isn't particular about their time? Everyone is supposed to be time smart
Even our elders have said that "time is money"
Knowing the right person is a skill we all have to learn; we must learn to know who you can share your time with, people you can spare hours of your day for just to pay attention to them which more than sometimes makes you feel alive.

But you must ask yourself..

Who is this Right person?
Once you ask yourselves the few questions below, I'm certain you'd find your answer or at least you'd see more clearly. But I must tell you, it doesn't matter if they don't love you as much as you do. It doesn't even matter what they feel about you. What matters is how you feel about it. How it makes you feel is what matters. It is only a mistake when you regret it, feel stupid or feel less.

So ask yourself..

1. Do I feel like it's a waste of time?
   
2. Do I derive so much joy from long conversations with them?
3. Do I feel like I need to dedicate even more time for them?
4. Does it sometime feel like I just want to keep talking on and on and on like forever?
5. Or have I been so much engrossed when talking to them that I forget a few deadlines to meet?

Now if you didn't pay absolute attention to these you'd never know that it isn't really about how they feel but how you feel. In my questions above I never made mention of how you think they feel but how you feel.

Most times, it's not always about dating and being in a relationship because that is where we all get it wrong. No one just wants to enjoy a true friendship, unconsciously we want something more.
But that's not the topic for today but for any other day..

You just go ahead today and spend time with the right person. I can't decide for you. Your heart will.

😉

It's All In The Past Now.

Hey Junior,
For years now, I've had a million things in my heavy heart to say to you; some will inspire you to be a better man, some will point at areas where you went wrong but many will hurt you.

But of all the things that happened between us, I'm glad I could make you feel special. Indeed you're special but not to everyone. You're were so amazing and I felt special being the only one who could see it while other couldn't (I guess they had crystal vision which I lacked).

I have waited this long to pour out my heart to you because I was dead busy with work and it's pressure. I needed to find spare time to explain your problems.

So this Junior couldn't keep one woman; he was a lover and a huge fan of multiple women in varieties. Junior made me see fat and slim as the same size well because he loved any type. Even if you're tall or short, all were his fancy.

One interesting thing about him was that his practice just never made perfect! For he who lies daily? In few weeks should be "game" in it. But for two years and an extra nine months he wasn't perfect with his lies. And what hurt the most was that he couldn't tell the truth anymore. From every sentence that let loose from his mouth aired lies.

The one which I'm proud to say made me bitter was when he denied me, what we were and what we shared.
His unfaithfulness I swallowed. His lies I contained.
I was just as a dog retuning to its vomit but I got thoroughly delivered the day when I got denied.

It is so painful walking away from something that completes you.

But Junior, I'm glad I did. You were my breakthrough from being that fool I was.

So here goes my message "do have a wonderful life"

Regards.

WHEN IT IS YOUR OWN

There is just something sweet and true about what belongs to you. Have you ever had to fight for your baby to love you? I'm quite sure that's a no.

So on the last day of 2016, I went for this cross over service that my sister kept calling pass over (sigh) I'm glad we all made it; so on this night I managed to have this beautiful six months old baby girl fall in love with me. Maybe she was in love with my rumpled dress or my oversized slippers, but only her knew whatever she saw that no able man in that building could see.

Anyway, so we played all through and I made her smile more than a couple of times.

Her mum had walked pass us and had thanked me for helping her handle such a troublesome girl she said. I smiled.

Just maybe her mum only remembered that she needed to change "Chidinma's" diapers so she quickly ran towards us. And just as mama chidinma stretched out her both hands to carry her, she joyfully left me. I mean she walked out on all the sweets and biscuits I had used to keep her longer with me. I sighted both Chidinma and her mum at one corner and I walked for less than a minute till I got to where they were. Just as I tried to play with her, she frowned and cringed towards her mum and I felt so embarrassed and with a joyful face went back to sit.

So what is my point here?

All points I have ever tried to make has always been about this thing called LOVE.

Have you ever been in love? Ever?

Alright. Have you seen the relationship between a baby and his mum or have you watched how a baby giggles when his mum smiles at him? It is such an awesome sight and a wonderful experience.

A baby may have people he likes to play with. But these people are not his first love. They are not comparable with his mum! He likes them or he may even love them but they just aren't his mum irrespective of what he feels for them. And above all? He takes his mum.

2016 I believe should have been a year where we made ALL our mistakes and cried out all our tears. Well because this year isn't a year where we should make more mistakes about this thing called LOVE.

Love is simple so why make mistakes? Love is clear so why go blind about it?

There is something I must point out

"Let your man do whatever he likes don't forget to do whatever you like too"

Mind you, I didn't say let your man cheat so you can cheat as well. What I'm saying is if your man cheats do what you like. You can choose to stay or choose to walk away but that's your decision. Don't burden others to help you make a decision. If what is obvious in your relationship isn't obvious enough to you how then do friends, sisters or brothers have clearer visions to help you make a decision?

So please, do what you want. But don't forget.

Would that baby have left his mum to spend a night with me just because of sweets and biscuits?

So why would your man spend a night with a woman because of breast and buttocks?

Or why would your woman decide to spend a night with a man because of money and car.

Genuine love doesn't cheat and would never lie.

Don't make excuses for anyone.

Your own will stick just as a baby sticks.

I care.